Falling for your best friend. I’m sure most of you guys
know how complicated it is to have a huge crush on your BFF. This kind of crush
isn’t the same as every other crush you’ve ever had – no, this is different.
You like the person who’s supposed to be your beastie! There are so many
questions to consider: should you go for it and potentially ruin a good friendship?
Should you try to move on and meet someone else? Should you stop being friends
completely?
I’m here to, hopefully, help you girls out with this
major dilemma and to figure out how to date your best friend. Below you’ll find
10 tips on how to make the scary move from friends to romantic partners and how
to be in a relationship with this person without completely ruining your
awesome and amazing friendship. Check out these tips on how to date your best friend
with little to no awkwardness:
Consider
How You Think She/he Feels
Before you do anything, seriously think about how you
think your BFF might feel about you. Do you get the sense that he/she flirts
with you sometimes? Do you feel like there's sexual tension between you guys?
Is this person already dating someone? Before you make a move, you should
consider what how you think your BFF is going to react.
1st
Start Flirting
Think he or she might be into you also? Start flirting!
You don't need to put serious moves on him/her, but just start being a little
bit more flirty when you two hang out. Put your hand on his/her arm when talking,
say things like, "you're so cute!" or "you're so funny!"
Stuff like that. It should be pretty comfortable since you two are so close.
Take
Up Dating In A Joking Way
Test out the waters by making a "joke" about
you two dating. Say something like, "My mom said we'd make a cute couple.
So funny, right?" This is an easy way to judge their reaction to a
statement like that - if things go badly, you can always be like, "Just
kidding, haha..!" But at the same time, realize that this isn't foolproof.
If they get super weird about it, it may be because they were thinking it and
you just joked about it. Ugh. So complicated.
Understand
You Might Lose Him
Before you do or say anything you can't take back, you
should seriously consider the fact that you could lose your best friend over
this. Things can get awkward quickly and it can be hard to recover from
something like confessing your love to someone who doesn't care about you also.
I'm not trying to scare you, but this is definitely important. Are you willing
to put things on the line to make a move? If so, go for it. If not, try to move
on.
Tell
His/hers How You Feel
Think he or she might be into you also? It may be time
to make a move. I know that's super scary, but would you rather wonder about
your relationship forever? Tell him/her how you feel in whatever way you feel
comfortable - maybe for you that's through a note or something like that. Just
know that whatever their reaction is, in the end, you'll feel better for coming
clean.
Proceeds
Things Slow
He/she feels the same way as you? Awesome! That's really
great news. But now you guys should start by taking things slow. This might be
hard, because chances are if they're your BFF, you already spend a lot of time together.
Don't feel like you have to jump into an intense relationship because you're
already so close. This is the time to get to know this person in a different
way, so just take things slowly.
Realize
That Some Things Might Change..,,
Some things are probably going to change between you
guys. For example, you can't really keep telling your BFF about that hot guy in
your class if you guys are dating, you know? You don't need to morph into girlfriend
mode or anything, just realize that you might need to adjust a few things about
your relationship.
But..
Things Won't Be THAT Different..!
The good news? A few things might change, but overall,
things won't be THAT different. This is still your best friend we're talking
about here! Just because the two of you are now dating doesn't mean either of
you are different people. Continue to be yourself and don't try to impress him
or her - they already like you!
Realize
That Things Might Be A Minute Awkward
If you guys have been platonic friends for a long time,
doing the sexy stuff might be a little awkward at first. But don't worry about
that - things will get better and both of you will get more comfortable as time
goes on. Also, your mutual friends might start to feel a little weird about two
of their friends dating. Again, don't stress - they'll get used to it.
Don't
Be Super Jealous
This person was (is) your best friend, right? So that
probably means you know everything about his/her sexual past. Try to keep
yourself from feeling super jealous about the things you know. He or she is
with you now!
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